On January 11th, Teen Wolf star, Charlie Carver, came out over a series of emotional Instagram posts.
Charlie said that last year he felt inspired by a quote, “Be who you needed when you were younger,” and decided to save it on his phone. Then he spoke how “over the course of about-a-year, it became clear why the inspirational photo had called out to me. As a young boy, I knew I wanted to be an actor. I knew I wanted to be a lot of things! I thought I wanted to be a painter, a soccer player, a stegosaurus… But the acting thing stuck. It was around that age that I also knew, however abstractly, that I was different from some of the other boys in my grade. Over time, this abstract “knowing” grew and articulated itself through a painful gestation marked by feelings of despair and alienation, ending in a climax of saying three words out loud: ‘I am gay’”
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Over a series of a few more posts, Charlie added more details about why he chose to come out now. He first talked about how he has been out with his family for a long time, and has been blessed to feel safe with their support. He cautions, however, for youths to wait until they feel safe and secure before they come out by saying “If you feel like you want to Come Out, make sure first and foremost that you have a support system and will be safe. I would never encourage anyone to Come Out only to find themselves in harm’s way – a disproportionate number of Homeless American (and Global) Youth are members of the LGBTQ community who were kicked out of their families and homes out of hate and prejudice. It is a major issue in-and-of itself, and a situation not worth putting oneself at risk for.”
And while he always believed he would come out publically to his fans, he hated the term. Describing that by coming out, he feared that he would be defined by his sexuality. Charlie said “Sure, I am a proud gay man, but I don’t identify as a Gay man, or a GAY man, or just gay. I identify as a lot of things, these various identifications and identities taking up equal space and making up an ever-fluid sense of Self.”
But now Charlie has decided it is time for him to come clean and share with the world that yes, he is a gay man. The end of his post summed it all up: “So now, let the record show this- I self-identify as gay. And does that really matter anymore? As a young man, I needed a young man in Hollywood to say that- and without being a dick about it, I owe it to myself, more than anything, to be who I needed when I was younger.“
Congratulations Charlie Carver! We wish the best for you and are happy to have such a kind man as yourself in Hollywood.